What we think, we become

I used to wonder how two strangers can get married and lead an understanding life.. Its so strange.. I too had to meet a stranger and accept to live a life with him. How will it be if the person does not match our character? How will it be if the person's taste does not match our's? How will it be if the person is not able to get along with us? How will it be if the person does not meet our expectations (corporate term :) )? These questions made me feel that I should not go for marriage unless i gain confidence on these would not happen. Next question that crossed my mind is that, how long will it take for me to gain confidence? Day came when someone came to see me with his family. I had to tell people if I like him or not. I was not given even few minutes to relax and think. I had to judge him only by his physical appearance. Is it good to judge a person with how he looks from outside? Is it the right way to judge a person? Afterall, its two people's life. I was n...

Its easy to advice not to expect but very difficult to follow in reality. We all feel and say expectation hurts. Still, we do keep expecting from people around us. Expecting kind words when we are not fine, expecting company when alone, expecting affection when we are in need, expecting recognition for the efforts, expecting success for the hard work and so on.. Are these expectations bad? Not really. It depends on where, how, when and from whom the expectation is. Expecting right thing from the right person at the right time in the right way is acceptable and will not hurt us. If we get hurt still, then it means one or more of these params is wrong and need to be corrected. Expect the right thing from the right person at the right tim e in the right way.. Simple :) We tend to forget all these rights when we feel we have rights on someone.. Afterall, we are humans.. I re-iterate.. Its easy to advice not to expect but very difficult to follow in reality.. Very true :( A...